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Communicating with Parents and Families about Assessment

April 6, 2026

Communicating with Parents and Families about Assessment

Learn effective strategies for communicating with parents and families about assessment, including report cards, feedback, and student-led conferences.

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When I think of communication with parents and families about assessment, I’ve learned that it’s a two-way street with several key aspects. Let’s look at communicating to parents and families, communication with parents and families, and communication from parents and families.

Communication to Parents and Families

When I talk to parents, many of them feel as though there is a hidden code in schools—a code they don’t understand. Margo and her son moved to a new area when Jared started middle school. She missed the first parent-teacher meeting because she was working. She called the school and left several messages asking to meet with his teachers but didn’t receive a return call. Margo was frustrated when she told me her story. Another teacher at the school was in one of my classes, so I talked with her. I discovered that the school had a policy that all appointments with teachers were scheduled with the attendance secretary, so the entire teaching team could meet with parents without scheduling conflicts. My graduate student said the principal always explained the policy at the first meeting. So, of course, Margo didn’t know because she wasn’t at the meeting, and she thought the teachers were just ignoring her. One phone call later, she connected with the teachers, and she and Jared finished the year successfully.

I recommend that you have a grading policy. It’s not enough to have the policy—you need to ensure that every parent and family member understands it. Sharing the policy at meetings or conferences is crucial, but you also want to make sure parents and families have access to the policy throughout the year. I can’t count the number of calls I received because a parent had misplaced the policy! In addition to making it accessible to parents and families through your website, remind families of critical aspects through social media postings and newsletters.

Additionally, whenever students are working on a big project, make your expectations clear not only to them but also to their parents in writing. This is also important at the midpoint in the grading cycle and as you near the end of a grading period. One of my principals always reminded me, “The worst thing you can hear from a parent is ‘If I had only known.’” Your goal is no surprises!

Report cards are the main way teachers communicate results of assessments to parents, families and students. Report cards typically provide space for a grade, but you should add comments whenever possible because they provide specific feedback as to strengths and challenges.

What makes an effective report card? Authors Carol Ann Tomlinson and Tonya Moon share nine principles for effective grading. They are particularly pertinent to report cards.

Nine Guiding Principles

  1. Base grades on clearly specified learning goals.
  2. Use grades that are criterion-based, not comparative.
  3. Don’t over-grade student work.
  4. Use only high-quality assessments.
  5. Reduce “grade fog” (things that muddle the meaning or clarity of the grade).
  6. Eliminate “mathematical grade fog” (giving zeroes, which artificially deflate grades; averaging grades, which overemphasizes outlier scores).
  7. Grade more heavily later in the grading cycle rather than earlier.
  8. Use 3P grading (report several grades each for student’s performance or product, the student’s process, and the student’s progress).
  9. Involve students in the assessment and grading process.

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Communication from Parents and Families

It’s also important to have communication from parents and families. There will be times that you need information from them to best meet the needs of your students. I remember talking to a neighbor a few years ago. She had received multiple calls and emails from the school, but had not returned them. She was worried they wanted to give her bad news. I convinced her to call her son’s teacher. The teacher was simply concerned because her son’s performance was deteriorating. The teacher wanted to help, but wondered if anything was happening at home. My neighbor explained that her ex-husband was remarrying, and her son was unsure as to what that would mean to him. The teacher was empathetic, and assured my neighbor she would provide extra help at school to ensure his success. My neighbor was relieved to know of the additional support, and the teacher was able to provide that support since she knew the situation. 

I like to periodically ask parents and family members for key information.

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Communication with Parents and Families

Finally, there is communication with parents and families. This is the highest level of communication, representing a true back-and-forth in which, together, you make decisions about a student. Here are 10 keys to effective communication:

10 Principles of Effective Communication

  1. Conciseness and consistency matter.
  2. Open with your key point.
  3. Match to your agenda.
  4. Make it coherent.
  5. Understand your audience.
  6. Name your objective/desired action.
  7. Courtesy rules.
  8. Ask questions.
  9. Tell a story.
  10. Empathy helps.

Using these keys can help you develop a true partnership. Although you’ll want to consider them anytime you are communicating, they are especially helpful during conferences. Keep these in mind as you review my five steps for a great parent/family conference.

  • Good news is the way to start!
  • Relate your opinion so parents understand you want to help their child.
  • Evidence is provided to support your opinion.
  • Accept their perspective as valid.
  • Thought-provoking questions help all participants share.
The ultimate in family communication is probably student-led conferences.

The ultimate in family communication is probably student-led conferences. They have risen in popularity in recent years and reflect a more rigorous way to communicate because students must take a leadership role. Teachers participate, but they move into the role of a facilitator. What does a student-led conference look like?

Structure for Student-Led Conference

  • Welcome your guests (family members).
  • Introduce your teacher.
  • Share your goals (should be written).
  • Show your chart that demonstrates progress.
  • Show examples of your work that are reflected on the chart.
  • Ask if your guests have any questions.
  • Ask if your teacher has anything to add.
  • Complete the summary sheet together.

Sample Summary Sheet

You’ll also want to guide parents as to the types of questions to ask. Remember, this is typically new for them.

Sample Questions for Parents to Ask

  • What are you most proud of?
  • What have you learned?
  • What are you still working on?
  • What did you struggle with?
  • Did you reach your goals?
  • Questions I have for the teacher as my child presents.

A Final Note

Collaborating with parents and families is a crucial part of your job as a teacher. Communicating to, with and from parents and families will ensure student success. 

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